Women’s Issues

Midlife is a time of transition for many women. As hormone levels shift and life demands grow, it’s common to experience changes in mood, focus, memory, and energy. For some, these changes signal the beginning of perimenopause and menopause. For others, they may be signs of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)—or perhaps both. Because the symptoms overlap, many women go undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, or struggle to find clarity.

This post explores how hormonal fluctuations, estrogen levels, and executive functioning intersect—and how to tell when you might be facing perimenopause, ADHD, or a combination of both.

Why the Overlap Happens: Hormones, the Brain, and ADHD

Estrogen isn’t just a reproductive hormone—it has far-reaching effects on the brain. It helps regulate dopamine and serotonin, which are key in attention, motivation, mood regulation, and executive functioning.

As estrogen levels decline during the lead up to menopause, these neurotransmitter systems become less stable. That instability can mimic or intensify ADHD symptoms, especially in women who already have ADHD or traits that were previously mild or unnoticed.

Many women report that their focus, memory, and emotional regulation—once manageable—begin to feel more fragile during this phase of life. This is why midlife is a common time for women to be diagnosed with ADHD for the first time, or to feel that their existing ADHD has worsened.

Common Symptoms That Overlap

Both ADHD and perimenopause can cause similar cognitive and emotional challenges. Women often describe:

• Persistent brain fog or forgetfulness
• Increased irritability or mood swings
• Difficulty with organization, time management, and planning
• Fatigue or disrupted sleep
• Heightened anxiety or feelings of overwhelm

These experiences can affect emotional stability, relationships, and work performance. Because symptoms fluctuate with hormone levels, many women are left wondering whether it’s a hormonal change, ADHD, or a mood disorder—when in reality, it may be both.

What Women Report

Many women in midlife describe a sudden shift in their ability to function day to day. They say things like:

• “I used to be sharp at work, but now I can’t remember simple details.”
• “I feel scattered and unmotivated, even with things I care about.”
• “My moods swing from fine to frustrated in minutes.”
• “It feels like I have menopause brain all the time.”

These reports reflect how deeply menopause affects not only physical health but also hormone health and cognition. For women with ADHD, these transitions often magnify preexisting struggles with focus, follow-through, and emotional regulation.

Even women who never noticed ADHD traits before may start to see patterns that were once hidden by structure, energy, or hormonal balance.

Why Hormones Play Such a Big Role

Estrogen helps support attention, memory, and emotional steadiness. When estrogen levels start to decline, dopamine production drops, and the brain’s ability to sustain focus and regulate emotion becomes more difficult. This creates what many call menopause brain—a sense of fogginess, forgetfulness, or detachment.

Meanwhile, the menstrual cycle during perimenopause becomes irregular, causing fluctuations in hormone levels that directly affect mood and concentration. This means one week may feel productive and stable, while the next feels emotionally draining and unfocused.

For women already prone to ADHD symptoms, these swings can feel like losing control over their own minds.

How to Tell What’s Going On

It’s not always about deciding whether it’s perimenopause or ADHD—it might be both. Understanding what’s contributing most can help guide the right treatment approach.

1. Take a thorough history

Start by identifying when symptoms began. If focus and organization have been lifelong struggles that worsened during midlife, ADHD could be the underlying factor. If symptoms appeared suddenly alongside hot flashes, irregular cycles, or fatigue, hormonal shifts may play a larger role.

2. Get a professional assessment

A comprehensive ADHD assessment can clarify whether symptoms fit the pattern of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or are more related to hormonal or emotional changes. Neuropsychological testing can reveal strengths and weaknesses in executive functioning, working memory, and attention.

Additionally, lab work to check hormone levels—such as estrogen, progesterone, FSH, and thyroid—can help determine where you are in the perimenopause and menopause process.

3. Track symptoms in relation to your cycle

Monitoring mood, sleep, and attention across the menstrual cycle can reveal patterns tied to hormonal fluctuations. For example, if symptoms consistently worsen right before a period, hormones may be a major factor.

4. Observe how you respond to treatment

If hormone replacement therapy (HRT) or lifestyle changes improve brain fog and emotional steadiness, that suggests hormones are driving much of the issue. If ADHD medication or structured behavioral strategies provide relief, the neurological component may be stronger.

Often, the best outcomes come from addressing both simultaneously.

The Dual Approach to Healing

Because hormones and brain chemistry are so interconnected, an integrative approach often works best.

Supporting Hormone Health

• Consider HRT: For some women, balancing estrogen levels through HRT can ease mood swings, improve clarity, and reduce brain fog.
• Prioritize sleep and nutrition: Both support stable hormones and better focus.
• Reduce stress: Chronic stress can worsen both ADHD and hormonal imbalance.

Addressing ADHD Directly

• Medication (when appropriate): Stimulant or non-stimulant medication can help regulate focus, energy, and executive functioning.
• Cognitive-behavioral strategies: External reminders, planners, and ADHD coaching can help manage overwhelm and disorganization.
• Therapeutic support: Therapy focused on emotional regulation can help manage irritability and prevent burnout.

When both systems are supported—the hormonal and the neurological—women often notice a stronger sense of control, clearer thinking, and steadier moods.

What to Expect

It’s normal for symptoms to ebb and flow during midlife as hormone levels fluctuate. However, if your ability to function, focus, or manage mood feels significantly impaired, professional help can make all the difference.

If you’ve already been diagnosed with ADHD, discuss the impact of hormonal changes with your clinician. Adjustments to your treatment plan—whether medication, therapy, or lifestyle—may be needed.

If you’ve never been evaluated for ADHD but now experience increasing forgetfulness, disorganization, or irritability, consider a professional assessment that includes both hormone and cognitive factors.

A Real-Life Example

Take Anna, a 47-year-old professional and mother. She always juggled multiple roles successfully but recently started forgetting deadlines, losing her train of thought mid-conversation, and crying over small frustrations. She assumed it was stress—until her doctor mentioned perimenopause.

After testing, Anna learned that her estrogen levels were dropping, contributing to hormonal fluctuations and poor sleep. But an ADHD evaluation also showed difficulties with executive functioning that had been masked for years by structure and support.

Her care plan included hormone replacement therapy, ADHD-friendly organization tools, and therapy focused on emotional regulation. Within months, she noticed better focus, fewer mood swings, and a calmer, clearer mindset.

When to Seek Help

If you feel like you’re losing your edge, constantly exhausted, or “not yourself,” you don’t have to just power through. An individualized assessment can help determine whether you’re experiencing menopause affects or the signs of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)—and guide you toward real, evidence-based solutions.

Through comprehensive assessment and personalized treatment, we help you understand what’s happening and develop a plan that restores balance—mentally, emotionally, and physically.

You deserve to feel focused, capable, and at peace with yourself again. Whether your challenges stem from perimenopause, ADHD, or both, the right support can make all the difference. Call Dayspring Behavioral Health today to learn more.

Most of us from a young age are taught how to be kind, considerate and compassionate toward others. But rarely are we told to show the same consideration to ourselves. This becomes even more true for individuals brought up in abusive or unloving homes.

What is Self-Compassion?

Self-compassion is taken from Buddhist psychology and refers to how we can relate to the self with kindness. Self-compassion or self-love is NOT to be confused with arrogance or selfishness. In actuality, arrogance and selfishness stem from the absence of self-love.

But what does it really mean to be kind with ourselves? It means that on a day-to-day basis we are mindful of being courteous, supportive and compassionate with ourselves. Too many individuals treat themselves with harsh judgement instead of compassion.

Why is this important? Because self-compassion helps us recognize our unconditional worth and value. It allows us to recognize though we my sometimes make bad decisions, we’re not bad people.

Research, over the past decade, has shown the parallel between self care and psychological wellbeing. Those who recognize self-compassion also tend to have better connections with others, are reportedly happier with their own lives, and have a higher satisfaction with life overall. Self-compassion also correlates with less shame, anxiety and depression.

Now that you know the what and why of self-compassion, let’s look at the how.

How to Practice Self-Compassion

Treat Yourself as You Would a Small Child

You would never harshly judge or belittle a small child the way you do yourself. You would only want to help and love that child. When you begin to treat yourself as you would a small child, you begin to show yourself the same love, gentleness and kindness.

Practice Mindfulness

Every minute your mind is handling millions of bits of information, though you consciously are only aware of a few of them. This is to say we all have scripts or programs running in our minds 24/7. These scripts and programs are running our lives, insisting we have certain behaviors and make certain decisions.

Some of these scripts are the ones that tell us how “bad” or “unlovable” we are. They’ve been running since we were kids. The way to quiet these scripts is to become more mindful of your own mind.

When you begin to have a feeling or reaction to something, stop and ask yourself WHO is feeling that? Is it the compassionate self or the program running? If it’s the program, thank the program for what it has done and release it.

Good Will vs Good Feelings

Self-compassion is a conscious act of kindness we show ourselves; it’s not a way to alleviate emotional pain. Life happens, and we can’t always avoid negative or sad feelings. Never mistake self-compassion as a tool to ignore your deep and rich emotional life.

These are just a few ways you can begin to cultivate self-compassion. If you’d like to explore more options or talk to someone about your feelings of self-rejection and judgement, please get in touch with me. I’d be happy to discuss how cognitive therapy may help.